If you’re trans and you use a packer or breastforms on a day to day basis, do not use them at the airport. The body scanners that the TSA uses look for variations from a “male” or “female” body, so if you have bulges where they ‘shouldn’t’ be, you will get the patdown.
signal boost this, please.
there’s a page on the TSA’s website that has tips and info specifically for trans travelers!! I can’t remember everything it has on it but one of the big things is that if you get flagged for a patdown or other screening you can have it done in private if you so request 🙂 🙂
i grew up in a verbally abusive home and i never understood/believed what people meant when they said “if you grow up in an abusive household you’re more prone to experiencing abuse as an adult” until recently (because i have miraculously landed in a safe soft place and have had time to reflect for the first time in one million years 🙏🏼) so here it goes.
this doesn’t imply that a person who grew up being abused will inherently become an abuser or go gaga over abusive people to continue the cycle. ofc yes, this does often happen too.
the spaces you spend the most time in as a child define your conception of home, or a home base, and that’s important because whether it’s a happy & healthy or dark & dangerous place it becomes familiar. to a person raised in a calm household an outburst of yelling sends up red flags that something is off. to a person raised in a noisy and chaotic household the fight or flight reaction is dulled way down. somewhere you know it’s wrong but you also know that it hasn’t killed you yet, so it can be endured. it’s complicated, and it makes it much easier to walk into the arms of abusive people because your internal warning volume is set close to 0.
What was it he did? I cant miss an opportunity to drag Ross
So! First! He made out with Rachel while he was still dating Julie
THEN, he couldn’t decide which one he wanted to date more, so he kept dating Julie and didn’t tell Rachel anything about his decision after they had kissed
THEN he made a pros and cons list to decide whether or not to dump Julie so he could date Rachel and he wrote shit like: Too ditzy, too spoiled, too into her looks, not much in common since she’s just a waitress, and she has fat ankles
THEN, after he finally decided to dump Julie and be with Rachel, he tried to hide the list from her but she found it anyway and got rightfully pissed off
THEN he tried to make all sorts of excuses for the list without actually apologizing
THEN he ignored Rachel’s choice to be alone by CLIMBING UP THE SIDE OF THEIR BUILDING INTO THEIR FUCKING BALCONY to try and force her to listen to him read her “Pro-list”
THEN he gets his other friends to let him into the house after Rachel makes it clear that she doesn’t want to see him by going into her room
THEN Rachel tries to explain to him why she’s so hurt by the list by telling him that all the things he wrote on the list were things she actually hates about herself and it sucks he not only agrees with her but actually uses those things as reasons not to be with her
THEN he CONTINUES to try and make excuses for himself and even try to make her feel bad about being mad at him by turning the situation around by saying “If things were the other way around, there’s nothing you could write about me that would make me not want to be with you”
THEN, after Rachel makes it clear that she’s not interested in talking to him, he calls Monica and asks her to turn on the radio since he made a song request for her so he’s basically forcing Rachel to listen to him
SO IN CONCLUSION: He didn’t apologize ONE TIME for the list, he tried to manipulate Rachel into forgiving him by saying she’s overreacting, AND proceeded to ignore Rachel’s wishes for a little bit of space continuously
This has been an anti-Ross psa
KILL HIM
“There is nothing you could write on a list about me that would make me not want to be with you!”
“Well, that’s the difference between you and I, Ross. I wouldn’t write a list in the first place.”
This doesn’t even include the shit he did when they dated/broke up/dated again/etc
Let’s say it’s 6.15pm and you’re going home (alone of course), after an unusually hard day on the job. You’re really tired, upset and frustrated. Suddenly you start experiencing severe pain in your chest that starts to drag out into your arm and up into your jaw. You are only about five miles from the hospital nearest your home. Unfortunately you don’t know if you’ll be able to make it that far. You have been trained in CPR, but the guy that taught the course did not tell you how to perform it on yourself..!!
NOW HOW TO SURVIVE A HEART ATTACK WHEN ALONE…
Since many people are alone when they suffer a heart attack, without help, the person whose heart is beating improperly and who begins to feel faint, has only about 10 seconds left before losing consciousness.
However, these victims can help themselves by coughing repeatedly and very vigorously.
A deep breath should be taken before each cough, and the cough must be deep and prolonged, as when producing sputum from deep inside the chest.
A breath and a cough must be repeated about every two seconds without let-up until help arrives, or until the heart is felt to be beating normally again.
Deep breaths get oxygen into the lungs and coughing movements squeeze the heart and keep the blood circulating.
The squeezing pressure on the heart also helps it regain normal rhythm. In this way, heart attack victims can perhaps buy precious time to get themselves to a phone and dial 911.
Rather than sharing another joke please contribute by broadcasting this which can save a person’s life!
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