IM LAUGHING SO HARD I DIDNT THINK SEXUAL DESIRE WAS A REAL THING LIKE I ALWAYS SAW PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT HOW THEY WANTED SEX BUT I THOUGHT THEY WERE JOKING OR EXAGGERATING OR SOMETHING THATS WHY IT WAS SO HARD FOR ME TO REALIZE I WAS ACE BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WENT WITHOUT SAYING SEX ISNT THAT IMPORTANT IM 19 YEARS OLD I CANT STOP LAUGHING LITERALLY 99% OF THE POPULATION EXPERIENCES SEXUAL DESIRE AND I THOUGHT IT WAS A JOKE
This is pretty much the definition of being an ace person, tbh, and I’m so glad.
this is literally the #that sounds fake but okay meme im dying
#ME#I THOUGHT SEXUAL ATTRACTION WAS RARE#AKA#HOW TO FIND OUT YOU’RE DEMI (via @miseryauthoress)
Honestly, every single cheating plotline never made sense because “but why do you have to have sex with them? just don’t??”
^^^^ Every single cheating plot line ever I was like: What is so hard about keeping your pants on what is your problem??
…do you have any idea how hard it is to do literary criticism that will get published when your reaction to at least 75% of character motivations is this makes no sense whatsoever why do they even care?
When people ask you why you don’t date someone just to try, and when you answer that well you’re not interested in that person, they explain that usually you don’t like the person at first, but you might fall in love after having dated a little while
and you’re just?????? but what?????????? is the point of dating someone if you don’t like them??????????????
what do you mean the point is making out and sex????????? why would i want to do that with someone i don’t already like?????????
I have literally experienced all of these.
my realizations laid out before me. xD;;;
this is adjacent to the Bi Realization of like “oh my god… there are people who… only like… ONE gender??? like, at all? Ever?!?!!?”
Yeah like I know baby boomers who talk like this and you can kind of just tell they don’t have the words and the self acceptance to realize this sorta thing is what’s happening
On the bi thing, really, that’s the feeling that kept me clueless of the fact that I am bi for 32 years (am now 33. It’s all new for me).
I’ve always thought, like, “oh sure I can easily imagine myself with women, and who can blame me it’s a known fact that women are hot right? But I’ve only been with men and I tend to imagine me with them more so that’s what straigth means, right?”
Cue me for years more and more imagining myself as the characters I ship (which I tend to do when I’m touching myself and such) and often I’d imagine myself being the guy doing stuff to the woman, for some reason. Because so many of my ships tend to be guy+woman, but still, look at me touching myself imagining me touching a woman. But hey I’m imagining a guy with a woman so I must be straight right?
And cue my LGBT+ friends baffled that I’ve always realized things like that and never came to the conclusion that yeah I like girls too. Because I never understood the idea of “I cannot ever imagine myself with someone of this gender”. Go figure.
Oh mood, the “everyone thinks women are hot” thing kept me confused for decades
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