strongorcbutch:

Recently in: “Cis people and the way they approach things.”

I was talking to a cis bi woman, along with one of my girlfriends who is a trans lesbian, and the fact that I’m also intersex came up in conversation. Specifically the fact that I’ve had period cramps/symptoms since I was 16, grew breasts at that age, etc., and the things which cause that.

And at that point in the conversation the cis woman immediately goes “Oh so you’re not really trans then.” 

Like..she was SO eager to jump to that. Like it made her more comfortable to get that idea in her head. I had to immediately explain that no…I am still a woman who was assigned male at birth. I still experienced the life that a closeted little trans girl experiences. I didn’t hit puberty and have everyone go “Oh, okay, this is a girl”, I hit puberty and had everyone go “what is wrong with this boy, he’s a freak, and we should abuse him even more”.

She still didn’t seem convinced, although she let it drop. 

Like most cis people really don’t seem to get the idea that the only thing separating us is a birth assignment that is incredibly arbitrary and they actively reject that reality when it’s brought to their attention. It’s why terfs really really don’t like being reminded that intersex people exist and that we can be cis or trans and that their rhetoric harms all of us regardless. It means that someone bearing one of those uteri that they hold up as being the “fount of womanhood” might exist in an amab person and that just wears even more holes in their bullshit. So they pay lip service to intersex people and act offended when anyone brings us up.